Day 113: Who Wins The ‘I’m Right’ Game?



Eccl.8:9 (KJV) All this have I seen, and applied my heart unto every work that is done under the sun: there is a time wherein one man ruleth over another to his own hurt.

Insisting on one’s rights every time can have very dire consequences on relationships. However, does this then mean that one should say he is wrong when he believes he is right?

The answer to this is NO.

Rather, the right thing to do when you are in such a situation is to hold back from pushing your opinion on the other person. Allow him to express his opinion, and as he does, please acknowledge his point of view as well.

The reason is that even when you win particular cases by pushing your rights, you are NOT a real winner if you hurt your relationships in any way in the process.

On the other hand, when you channel your energy towards the health of your relationships and let go of your rights, then you have a double win in that you also build your relationship in the process, even if you don’t have your way in that particular instance.

…when you win particular cases by pushing your rights, you are NOT a real winner if you hurt your relationships in any way in the process.

Think about it this way: Would you be right and lonely? Or better still, would you rather let go of your rights in order to be happy and closely knitted with your spouse or other significant people around you?

It’s up to you to decide…


Lord, I choose the double win. I choose peace. I choose your love. I choose to be patient. Please help me to not always insist on my rights, but to rather be defrauded and rather let go of vain arguments for the health of my relationships. Amen.

Francis Adebayo © 2015

Francis Adebayo is the Senior Pastor of Harvest Place, 10 Emmanuel Street, Maryland, Ikeja, Lagos.

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Day 112: Can These Dry Bones Live?



Rom 8:11 (KJV) But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you.

On #HolyGhostSeries today, another vital ministry of the Holy Spirit on earth, in the Church and in the life of the believer is His ability to restore life in dead, lifeless and extremely hopeless situations.
The Holy Spirit has the ability to give life or ‘quicken’ as the KJV puts it.

 And he said unto me, Son of man, can these bones live? And I answered, O Lord GOD, thou knowest. Eze 37:3 (KJV)

The word ‘quicken’ has to do with revival and the ability to restore quality life to the dead and hopeless.
The interesting part of the quickening ability of the Holy Spirit is that He steps in when all hope is lost and when our circumstances defy all solutions!
He steps in when it seems as though, “if only He had come a little earlier…”; and when “…by this time he stinketh”.

Jesus said, Take ye away the stone. Martha, the sister of him that was dead, saith unto him, Lord, by this time he stinketh:for he hath been dead four days.Jn 11:39 (KJV)

He steps in when it’s already too late!
For example, after Jesus had been crucified and dead for three days, God, through the power of the Holy Ghost quickened Him. The Holy Spirit revived and restored life to Him that had been stone dead for three whole days!
Earlier in Jesus’ ministry, it was the power of the Holy Spirit also who quickened Lazarus when Jesus spoke the word and said, “Lazarus, Come Forth!” By then, Lazarus had been dead for four whole days and already stank!
In the valley of dry bones, we see yet another hopeless situation which defied every solution. It was all too late. The bones had been dead for far too long and even gone past dying- they were way too… read more

Day 111: From Inside Out…



Gen.39:2 (KJV) And the LORD was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.

Welcome to #DreamSeries!

How could Joseph have survived the disappointment of his broken dreams and still fulfill destiny despite all he had to go through?
A summary of other factors which helped push him towards his destiny despite all odds include:
1) An excellent attitude to life. Joseph remained dedicated to service despite the fact that he did nothing to warrant all the hardship he suffered; and this earned him promotion as the head of Portiphar’s household.
2) He never stopped using his gifts to serve others- not even behind the bars; and this eventually brought him to limelight!
3) He had the ability to sustain his dreams on the inside! He possessed a die-hard spirit, as discussed in How Resilient Are You?
4)He was always conscious of God’s presence: this made him prosperous from inside out.

Joseph refused to have the slave mentality. Despite happenings around him, he remained prosperous on the inside, and this reflected on the outside.

Every miracle happens twice- first on the inside, afterwards, it becomes visible. Likewise, every destiny is fulfilled twice- first on the inside and then the outward manifestation follows.
Would you like to still fulfill destiny despite your broken dreams?
Then do not allow… read more…

Day 110: Even Silence Speaks Volumes



Eccl. 9:17 (KJV) The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools.
The ability to communicate effectively is the most vital of all skills required to excel in the business world and in life generally.
Obviously, this skill outweighs technical expertise as the man who has the know-how will always answer to the man who has the ability to pull resources together, walk through barriers and get things done. That takes excellent communication skills among other things!

… the most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.
Peter Drucker.

Why is a wise man’s whisper often louder than a fool’s cry? The major answer lies in the ability of the wise to communicate more effectively!
That leads to the first point we shall address on this subject, which is the general assumption that communication can only be verbal, written or visual. Nothing can be further from the truth!
Surprisingly, communication occurs every time and actually goes beyond speaking, writing or any form of visual or abstract art.
Essentially, communication is the skillful use of every available means and medium to relay, receive or interpret any message. It is the total package- the sum of what transpires between the effort and the feedback.

This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. Joh. 8:6 (KJV)

Reality is that no vacuum exists a… read more

Day 109: Reach Out And Touch God…



Mat 9:21(KJV) For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment, I shall be whole.

Irrespective of the initiator-
God or us

Each time there is an encounter with heaven
A sin is forgiven

Each time there is an encounter with heaven
A miracle is birthed

Each time there is an encounter with heaven
A man is made whole

Each time there is an encounter with heaven
Virtue flows!

Having waited long enough for God’s touch
It’s time YOU turned the table around
And touched God!

Touch Him with your praise and worship
Touch Him with a gladsome heart
Touch Him with a sacrificial seed
Touch Him with an act of service

Stretch the tentacles of your faith
And touch the hem of His garment

Pull the strings of His heart
And you shall be made whole indeed! (*1)


Lord, when I’ve waited so long for your touch, please help me to turn the table around and touch You in ways that please Your heart and draw Your attention. Amen.

Funmi Adebayo (c) 2010

(*1) Adebayo, F. (2014). You Reach Out And Touch God. In Each Day Online. Retrieved from You Reach Out And Touch God.


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